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Thankful for What?

It's no secret that this has been a hard year ( hard few years , to be clear). And WH and I have been struggling . It's easy to get lost in that struggle, to forget that there is sunshine, to wallow. As Thanksgiving and the holiday season approaches, it's a stark reminder of what we don't have. But that's a rabbit hole I'm trying very hard not to let myself fall down. I could easily think about how WH and I aren't able to be together. But instead, I'm thankful that we have each other. That we are in this thing together. That we bolster each other on those days that seem darkest. I'm thankful that we haven't lost each other even as we have lost so much else. I could let myself feel all alone. But instead, I'm thankful for family and friends who have given of themselves to make sure that we aren't alone. To make sure that we feel loved. These warriors in our army have given their time, their money, their tears, their souls to make sur

I am 40.

Today I am 40. It's a milestone, to be sure. But it's one that's a little harder to face than previous ones ( here's why ). Rather than wallow or feel sorry for myself, I'm going to practice self care in the form of self love. A friend on Twitter yesterday (when I was still 39) suggested that I mark the end of my 30s by giving myself 39 compliments. I didn't quite get around to it, but I've decided to kick off 40 with 40 compliments for instead. Here goes: I'm tough.  I've got a great head of hair. Loyal, almost to a fault (but we're dealing in compliments here, not faults). I have low blood pressure  (which should not be underestimated as one ages). No wrinkles! (Also should not be underestimated) I will laugh with you and cry with you, because I really do care. I'm a pretty damn good writer.  I make a mean chili, burrito, and chicken soup (but not all in the same pot). My eyes (my best feature) are pretty. I work hard. I play ha